NY recognizes gay marriages from other states, countries

NY state agencies to recognize gay marriages by Claudia Parsons, Reuters

NEW YORK - New York state has instructed government agencies to recognize same-sex marriages conducted out of state or abroad... The directive could impact everything from health insurance to public housing and organ donation. It was welcomed by the New York Civil Liberties Union, which posted a copy on its Web site and said it was "a milestone in the fight for fairness."

In the memo dated May 14 but not publicized at the time, Gov. David Paterson's legal counsel, David Nocenti, said state agencies that do not recognize gay marriages could be subject to liability. The directive follows a New York appeals court ruling in February that valid same-sex marriages performed in other states or countries must be recognized in New York.

Massachusetts is the only U.S. state that allows same-sex marriage, while several states allow gay civil unions.Paterson's predecessor as governor, Eliot Spitzer, who resigned earlier this year, proposed legalizing same-sex marriage in New York last year but said at the time he expected such a bill to be rejected by the legislature.

In California, the state Supreme Court ruled this month that barring homosexuals from marrying violated the California Constitution. Opponents of gay marriage in California are preparing an amendment to the state constitution that could be on the ballot for this year's election in November.

The directive to New York agencies said same-sex marriages were legal in Canada, South Africa, Spain, Belgium and the Netherlands, as well as Massachusetts.

"When a Massachusetts official vested with legal authority ... has recognized such marriage, it should be afforded the same recognition as any other legally performed union," it said.

The directive instructed state agencies to review all policies and regulations to ensure the terms "spouse," "husband" and "wife" were construed "in a manner that encompasses legal same-sex marriages, unless some other provision of law would bar your ability to do so." It referred to a list drawn up by the New York City Bar Association and the Empire State Pride Agenda Foundation, a gay rights group, of more than 1,300 such regulations.

Areas affected range from inheritance to public housing and education assistance, as well as health insurance and employment benefits. Donna Lieberman, executive director of the New York Civil Liberties Union, said Paterson's directive strengthened the court's ruling "by acknowledging it is New York's policy to recognize the marriages of lesbian and gay couples."

"Now it's time for our legislature to allow all of New York's families to live with dignity," Lieberman said.

Wikipedia has a chart of states with civil unions, and a timeline.

After the wedding - ethical cleanup and recycling

This is not about 'trashing the dress', a very odd custom and something antithetical to an eco-wedding, unless your dress is made of paper.

But how can you make the end of the wedding celebration ethical?

Recycle the flowers.

Donate the food. The easiest thing is to Google "Food Bank" and your city. Many places such as SecondHarvest or CityHarvest (NY) will not take food that has been out on a buffet, so talk informally with your local soup kitchens to see if they are prepared to accept your (refrigerated and wrapped) leftovers. Plan BEFORE the wedding, to arrange delivery. Ask the band, the servers, and the staff if they want the left-over food, and arrange for containers.

Plant a tree in a national forest.

Pay your carbon offsets for travel for your honeymoon and for your guest's travel.

Donate the dresses to Brides against Breast Cancer, or OTHER wedding dress recycling programs. Check your city for thrift shops for charity, or other services which recycle bridesmaids dresses as well as bridal gowns. Check sites for recycling prom dresses as well, if your bridesmaid dresses will send someone to the prom in style.